what does it mean to be independent? i feel like there's a fine line between independence and solitude, and i don't know where the line is. is there a limit to how much i should pursue my own agenda without heed to other people? can my own successes mean something without a relationship with someone else? i'm not really sure. while society bombards me with mixed messages about independent women who are also good housewives, i'm not quite sure what it all means. i wonder sometimes when the time is when too much aloneness means you're a recluse, rather than an 'independent' spirit. at the same point, being solely dependent on other people means that you're incapable of dealing with yourself, which is a more frightening matter at hand. images of feminism and the role of women in society have been percolating in my brain, thanks to jucispeak, and it's making me question the more 'liberal' roles for women that are supposedly endorsed. how can women reconcile their nesting and child-birthing hormones with their desires to pursue their own dreams? how can they appease their families and their own consciences that may simply say 'you cannot be loved like this' or 'you're not trying hard enough'? i'm sure other people have this problem- it's just been in my mind more lately because of my friends who are getting married/engaged and the issues that they are presented with.
currently listening to: somebody still loves you, boris yeltsin.
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woo-hoo! shout-out to jucispeak!!
sorry, i don't know where i've been lately...on a boy roller-coaster's where. but it's true, kales-- i swear every other post on my other blogg, tosendwarmth.blogspot.com, is about trying to understand the truth about independence. i keep coming back to this word, interdependence. i like that a little more, but it also depends on the context...anyway, amen to all of this, and i don't know that any of us will ever find "the answer"-- it's too personal, too individual.
LOVE!!!
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